Loving yourself should feel natural, but for many of us, it doesn’t. So many of us struggle to build self-esteem, and it’s usually because of things we’ve experienced in life—external stuff that has shaped how we think about ourselves. But let me tell you, it’s time to change that narrative. You deserve to love and accept yourself. If you’re ready to start that journey, stick around because we’ve got some real talk coming your way.
When you feel disconnected from who you are, the first thing you need to do is get real about why. Why don’t you love yourself? Why aren’t you happy with who you are? Most of the time, it’s because something external happened—a trauma, a careless comment, a moment in time that made you question your worth. Someone taught you to not love yourself.
Think back to a time when someone’s words or actions made you feel less than. Maybe it was a bully who picked on you, a parent who unknowingly planted seeds of doubt, or even strangers who made you feel invisible. These experiences, although cruel, may have played a role in the frustration you have with yourself today. But here’s a key thing to remember: that’s corrupt. None of that defines you.