Unprocessed mental trauma determines the path of development of a person’s mental life, and, as a rule, has a strong impact on parental function.
“A good enough mother” — a term introduced by psychoanalyst D. Winnicott, refers to the basic abilities of a woman necessary for the harmonious development of her child:
– The ability to understand and cope with your feelings and emotions. If the mother is angry, she will explain the reason for her anger and release it in a safe place for loved ones, rather than yell at the child for scattering toys, not realizing the true reason for her anger.
– The ability to recognize a child’s emotions, help name and process them. If a child is upset about something, a “good enough mother” labels this feeling and helps deal with it, rather than ignoring the child’s emotion or getting angry at its manifestation.
– The ability to leave yourself the right to make mistakes. The “good enough mother” knows and understands that she is not perfect and can make mistakes without feeling guilty about being a “bad mother.” In small quantities, frustrating conditions are useful for the child so that he learns to cope with them.
A good enough mother forms in the child a basic trust in the world, a sense of friendliness of the…