My kid was crying non-stop, I couldn’t control him.
I tried the pacifier.
I tried rocking him.
I tried singing to him.
At the end of it all he finally calmed down, looking happy and calm.
Like a comedic film his well-rested mom walked into the room with a smile on her face, happy to see her boy looking good.
She had just taken a nap.
“How was he?” She asked me.
I genuinely replied:
“He was great! A bit fussy for a while but he got over it and came around.”
I just as easily could have reacted with:
“He was a terror! Boy it took 30 minutes for him to finally come around.”
However that’s not what I focus on — my perspective is to always expect the best but to be ready and prepared for the worst.
So when the worst comes, it’s normal. And as per usual, it ends and we’re good.
So the question to ask yourself is:
“What did you focus on and how do you perceive a hard situation?”
A good test for it could be how you’d tell the story to someone like I did with my wife
This is the problem with so many unhappy people as they choose to focus on the negative and don’t have either the humility or resilience to have a productive perspective.
What you focus on expands and what you resists persists.
This is a habit for me now and it’s made me a super happy person.