Detach from who you think you are to become the person you want to be
Who are you now? Who do you want to become?
As a child, no one stood up for me and no one protected me, I had to do it myself. I felt unloved, unwanted, and alone. That became my story. That I was unloved, unwanted, alone, and I had to protect myself. I wasn’t aware of the impact that story held over me. I didn’t even notice I was thinking it. If you can’t notice your thinking, you can’t change it. I knew I wasn’t living the life I deserved, or wanted. Nor was I acting in a way that honored me, or the person I wanted to be. I wanted better.
I surrounded myself with families I wish I had and people I wanted to be like. I watched and listened to successful people with stories similar to mine to learn what they knew and find out how they succeeded. I learned they all had a story, or limiting beliefs about themselves, but they knew who they wanted to become, and to become that person they had to change the story they told themselves.
The story you are constantly telling yourself will become your vision
You will not create a powerful vision from a place you don’t feel powerful. If you’re always telling yourself “I never finish anything” or “I never have enough” then you’ll never finish anything, and you’ll never have enough. Talk to yourself through the voice of possibility. Turn off negativity. Replace the old story with “I finish what I start”. “I am resourceful enough to get what I need”. Have your new story readily available so you can grab it and replace the old story the second it comes up. You can’t get rid of the old story without the new story to insert into the same place. You have to have the new words in place to keep reprogramming your brain to grab onto something new.
Take Action
Write down who you want to become? Why? Go deep when writing your why. See an example from my first article https://medium.com/@aliaatyson/staying-motivated-2cfdf2e92861
Who are you now? Get clear on where you really are and what needs to shift to get to where you want to go.
Where do you want to go? What does the best year of your life look like?
How are you going to get there? Who’s already done it?
What needs to change now? What kept you from changing in the past?
While you’re doing this, your old story will come up. Have your new story in front of you ready to replace that old story so you can see things how they are, not worse than what they are. Your vision is going to be the thing that pulls you through when you face obstacles, and it’s going to be the why you get up in the morning. I believe you deserve to become the person you’re capable of being. Be bold and take uncomfortable action, and think about the cost of inaction.
All the best,
Aliaa Tyson